So, you want to take a leap. Launch the business, quit the job, pursue a passion, write the book, go back to school, or lose the weight. When you share your life with somebody, their support is paramount in moving you towards your goals. If your head is full of business ideas for women, you owe it to yourself to take that leap, but you need to get your spouse’s support.
If you don’t, you’re probably not going to make it without sacrificing your relationship. I don’t want to see you do that unless it’s an unhealthy relationship, then get the heck out. But, if you are in a loving relationship and don’t want to have to choose between your business and your spouse, you have to get their support.
I do three things that are big in my marriage to ensure I always get my husband’s support. The first one is communication. Communication is everything in any relationship. Sharing what you need from your spouse, and what you want out of life is essential. You can’t just assume your spouse knows these things. They don’t.
Chances are, what you need, or what you want out of life is changing, and it should be. Constant open communication lets your partner into that space, giving them a clear idea of where you’re headed, and what you need from them. Make sure you delegate who is responsible for outdoor chores, cooking, cleaning, paying the bills, and tending to the needs of children or pets.
You’re taking on life together, responsibilities, finances, and goals. If you’re always letting them know what you need from them and setting expectations, it’s going to make things go smoothly.
Ask for your spouse’s support in reaching your goals, and come up with a plan. If you get to the point where that plan no longer works, come up with a new one. It sounds so simple to communicate logistics, make a plan, and get clear about what you want, and need, but these actions are paramount.
Marriages, relationships, and families take the energy of many efforts. It’s not just you, and it’s not just them. Both of you need to take the time to pursue your own things to be happy. So, communicate what you need, and what you want, and how you are going to make that look in your relationship, and be realistic about it.
When you divide the tasks of the house and the children, do it fairly and commit to it. Stick to your commitments to your family and your limits in your work. I work from home, and I tend to overwork myself. My office is right here, and my job is right here, so I slide into my office and work more than I should. Over the years, I have gotten better at sticking to my limits and not letting work interfere with my commitments to my family.
If you want your spouse to support your business ideas for women, take time to be with them, and make them feel important. Yes, your dreams and goals are essential. Your personal development and growth matter, but a marriage cannot pour from an empty cup. If you are not fostering and caring for your relationship, your business might be successful, but chances are your marriage is going to fail.
Go Get That Support!
Spend time with them where you don’t talk about business or responsibilities. Just simply be. My favorite thing to do with my husband is to take a 20-minute walk after dinner. We hold hands, watch our son ride his bike, and talk about our neighbors’ gardens. If you don’t have 20 or 30 minutes a day to give to your spouse, you need to reevaluate your schedule. That’s all I’m going to say.
If you want your spouse to support your dreams, communicate exactly what you need, want, and how you’re going to get there. Be fair in dividing up the tasks of your life, family, and finances, so everyone feels supported, and everyone understands they’re in this together. Lastly, take time for each other, just date and be affectionate and show them that you love them dearly.
I hope these pointers help and you can find the strength and courage to let your spouse be a part of your dream and your passion and your hustle. Take them along on the journey and make them feel like part of your success. I do not think that I could have a successful business without my husband, and I show him my gratitude every single day.
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